Ms. Ross chimed in: “Sex can be playful, more like, ‘Let’s have some entertaining.’”
Ms. Dodson’s epiphany arrived in the wake of a rocky, sexually tepid marriage in the early 1960s to an advertising and marketing executive, Frederick Stern. The pair experienced no kids, nor did Ms. Dodson, who grew up with a few siblings, prepare on owning them in the upcoming. “I watched what my mother went through,” she claimed. “It’s the most thankless work on the planet.”
Free of charge to experiment, she explored group intercourse with ladies and adult males, her objective, she mentioned in a 1970 New York Instances interview, to let go of jealousy and possessive inner thoughts, “to comprehend I could enjoy far more than a person person.”
She eventually turned disenchanted. “Organized team sexual intercourse is a very little bowling-league form of point,” she reported at the time. “It’s super‐compulsive — there’s a frantic high-quality to it. It is odd.”
With a small settlement from her divorce, she financed the to start with of the sex workshops for gals that have been to come to be her livelihood and contacting. At them, she urged usually skittish individuals to strip down, explore their bodies and embrace methods involving clitoral therapeutic massage and the use of the Magic Wand, the somewhat unwieldy but extremely effective vibrator she promotes and sells by means of her web page, Dodson and Ross.
Her closely shorn white hair and sagelike demeanor invites comparisons with Dr. Ruth Westheimer, the cozily entertaining intercourse guru who mainstreamed in the 1980s. Ms. Dodson isn’t acquiring it. “Dr. Ruth is your grandmother with a funny accent,” she likes to say. “You hardly ever pay attention to what she suggests.”
The comparison is apt — to a point, Ms. Sprinkle mentioned. “Dr. Ruth is safe, while Betty is edgy, a progressive explorer of sexuality. She has the sorts of activities that even her more youthful followers will never ever have.”